How do I know if I need counseling?
Some people start counseling after a long period of feeling unhappy or overwhelmed. Many begin after an unexpected loss or crisis. Others have just a vague sense that things could be better. Whatever your situation, if you have something you want to talk about, counseling can be helpful. Often the real growth happens after the crisis or negative emotions pass. When things stabilize, we clearly see the way we want to be.
How does counseling help me feel better?
Often life is too hectic to really get a handle on exactly what or how we want to change. Counseling is prioritizing a time and a space to focus on you and your goals. Counseling should be a safe environment without judgment that is often a stark contrast to our outside world.
I have close friends. Why do I need a therapist to talk to?
Friends can be an amazing source of support but often they are too close to help us or understand our desire to change. Sometimes friends even reinforce the unhealthy patterns that we want to end. In therapy you can be completely honest, exactly how you are, without worrying about being judged. I will also be able to offer new perspectives and skills for facilitating the change process.
Do I need to come every week?
Coming every week is very helpful at the beginning. It helps us get to know one another, understand the changes you want to make, and meet your goals that much faster. However, for some, busy schedules don’t allow for once a week for a long time. Ultimately you decide what works for you.
How long will I be in counseling?
Until you feel better. This is something we will discuss together but it is always your choice based on your goals for therapy. Some people are seeking brief support around a specific problem or goal. Others want to make significant long terms changes about how they see themselves, relate to others or the world as whole.
Should I try counseling again if it didn’t help in the past?
Absolutely. The reason it didn’t seem helpful in the past may have related to the fit with you prior counselor(s) or the timing. It is very important for you to feel supported by your therapist and comfortable enough to be brutally honest about the challenges you are facing and/or the changes you want to make. The other issue is that we have to be ready to do the work to change. There are points in life where we might not ready to be open or are more focused on changing others or our circumstances.